Céline… : « lift your eyes to the Celeste Father, And you will see on the seats of honour a loving Father… A dear Mother… To whom you owe your immense happiness !… »
Dear brothers and sisters,
I wanted to begin this reflection with the words from Thérèse herself, describing the family atmosphere in which she grew up.
The family, from XIX century to today
When the skies are without God, the earth fills with idols. From XIX century, when the Martin family lived, and at the beginning of the XX century, people progressively lost interest in education in the family and were more so concerned with socioeconomic issues. Charles Péguy, who was born five days after Saint Thérèse underlined this point nearly prophetically : « A Christian child is nothing more than a child who read a million times the childhood story of Jesus ». In the daily rhythm and daily words we can still find unconscious reflections from this Christian population « who went and sang » and who « reseated their chairs with straw in the same state of mind as the sculptured their cathedrals. » However we cannot say that little Charles responded to the description of the Christian child so dear to the adult Péguy. Around him, in his family and school, no one lived this way, looking familiarly and affectionately towards Jesus. But this was true for the Martin family.
This refusal of paternity followed through to the XX century in a more complex way, essentially in the adherence to the great totalitarian models, who intended replacing the family, by confiding education to the communist or national-socialist, totalitarian state. This abdication and eclipse of the father figure continues in our consumer society where the career and outer image have taken the place of the children’s education. Education is a question of witnessing.
Without long speeches, with sermons, Monsieur Martin introduced Thérèse to the ultimate meaning of existence. Louis and Zélie were educators because they had no problems educating.
The family today : Love, ill in the family
At the beginning of this year a daily Italian newspaper (« Il Mattino di Napoli » [The Morning Naples] from 14th January 2008) published an article from Claude Risé, under this significant title « Love has fallen ill in families ».
Love has fallen ill, more precisely, love has fallen ill, in the place where each human being experiences love for the first time, being loved and loving others […] In our families today, children are in competition with lots of other things for the love of their parents.
An exceptional family : as witnessed by the Martin daughters
Here is the experience of the Martin daughters.
« All of my life the Good Lord has surrounded me in love ; my first memories are marked by smiles and tender caresses ! » (Ms A, 4v°) here is the most lively portrait of the Venerable Servants of God, Louis Martin and Zélie Guérin, as noted by the most illustrious daughters. Saint Thérèse of the Child Jesus of the Holy Face, described in the first pages of Story of a Soul, the gentleness and the joy of life in her family life. Thérèse the youngest doctor of the Church, described her family as the earth of a garden, a « holy land » where she grew up with her sisters, under the skillful and expert guidance of the incomparable parents. She wrote to Father Bellière just a few months before her death : « The Good Lord gave me a father and a mother who deserved Heaven more than earth ». This deep conviction of the Martin daughters of the saintliness of their parents was shared by other members of the family as others who talked about them as the saintly couple. Fourteen years after the death of Zélie, in a letter from 1891, Céline Guérin, her aunt, wrote to Thérèse who was already in Carmel : What did I do to deserve that the Lord would surround me with such loving hearts ! I only answered the last look of a mother who I loved a lot, a lot.
Léonie, herself, who created such difficulties for her parents, repeated to the Sisters of the Visitation in Caen : « Noblesse oblige, I belong to a family of saints ; I have to be up to standard. »
The Martins are not saints for having given birth to a saint, but for having inspired to saintliness as a couple. They were driven by a reciprocal desire, there was in both of them the willingness to look for in life that they were living, the will of God and the obedience to his commandment : « Be saints for I am a saint ». Louis and Zélie Martin were the humus and fertile ground where Thérèse was born and lived for fifteen years, before becoming « the greatest saint of modern times ». (Pius X)
Their secret : an ordinary « extraordinary » life
Louis and Zélie were luminous examples of married life lived in faithfulness, in welcoming life and in the education of their children. A Christian marriage lived in an absolute confidence in God and who could be proposed to families today. Their marriage was exemplary, full of Christian virtues and human wisdom. Exemplary does not mean that we should copy, photocopy their life reproducing all of their doings and gestures, but that we should use, like they did, the supernatural means that the Church offers to each Christian to carry out his vocation to saintliness. Providence wanted their Beatification to be announced during the celebrations of the 150th anniversary of the marriage, 13th July 1858.
Why after such a long time ? Is such a family not far from our time ? In what way are the Martin parents modern ? Can they help our families to take on today’s challenges ?
I am certain that a vast debate will begin around this couple at their Beatification. Conferences, debates, discussion groups will try to determine their experience with our history that is so complex. One this however must be very clear : The Church did not canonize a period, but examined the saintliness. With the Martins, the Church proposes to the faithful the saintliness and the perfection of a Christian life, that this couple achieved in an exemplary manner and, to use the language of the Trial, to a heroic degree. The Church is not interested in the exceptional but underlines how in their daily lives they were the salt of the earth and the light of the world (Mathew 5.13-14). The Servant of God, John Paul II declared : « It is necessary that the heroic becomes daily and that the daily becomes heroic ». The Church established that Louis and Zélie made something heroic out of their daily lives and from heroism something daily. This is possible for each Christian whatever his state in life. I am pleased to quote here a passage from the famous letter to Diognete on marriage and which the Martin couple knew exactly how to carry out : Christians do not differentiate themselves from other men by their territory not by their language not by their clothing. […] They marry as other do and have children, but they do not abandon the newly-born. They live in the body but not according to the body. They spend their life on earth but are citizens of heaven. They obey established laws, but their way of living surpasses the laws.
This letter traces a concrete model of a possible life, a route that all disciples of Jesus are called to follow, even today : to announce the beauty of a Christian marriage with its authentic experiences that are credible and attractive. To carry out this one needs couples and parents who are mature in love. Louis and Zélie embraced this form of married life to follow Christ. Husband, wife, and parents in Christ, where marriage is welcomed as a call and a mission given by God. With their life they announced to all the good news of the love « in Christ » : the humble love, love that spares nothing to start anew every morning, love capable of confidence and sacrifice. This communion clearly emerges from the letters exchanged between the two.
In one of his brief letters, which is practically a synthesis of matrimonial love, Louis signs in the following way : « Your husband and true friend, who loves you for life ». To these words, Zélie echoes : « I follow you in spirit throughout the day, I tell myself : »He is doing such a such at the moment« . I am so impatient to be with you, my dear Louis ; I love you with all my heart, and I can feel my affection doubling in your absence ; it would be impossible for me to live far from you. »
What is the secret of this communion ? Maybe the fact that, before looking in each other’s eyes, they looked directly at Jesus. They lived sacramentally reciprocal communion, trough Communion that they both cultivated with God. That is what is new « Hymn of hymns », which are part of Christian couples ; not only they must sing it, but only they can sing it. Christian love is a « Hymn of hymns » that the couple sings with God.
Vocation in a family
Vocation is, above all else, a divine initiative. But a Christian education favors a generous response to the call of God : « It is in the heart of the family that parents should be for their children, by the words and their example, the first announcers of the faith, and they should favor vocations in everyone, and in a special way the consecrated vocation » (CCC, 1656) So if the parents do not live the evangelical values, the young men and the young women could not hear the calling, understand the necessity of sacrifices and appreciate the beauty of the goal to be reached. In fact, it is in the family that the young people experience evangelical values, of the love that is give to God and to others. They must be educated to understand their responsibility in their freedom, to be ready to live, according to their vocation, the highest level of spiritual realities. (John-Paul II, Vie consecrate).
All of the Martin children were welcomed as a great gift of God to be given back to God. The mother, her heart broken with pain, offered her four children who had died at an early age. The father offered his five daughters, on their entry to the convent. For their children, they not only suffered the pain of physical birth but also the pain brought on in faith until Christ was formed within them (Galates 4, 19).
They were truly ministers of life and saintly parents who engendered saints ; they guided and educated saintliness. The Martin family, like the family in Nazareth, was a school, a place of learning and a place of preparation for virtue. A family who, today, will become the landmark for each Christian family.